Personal Hygiene

     So, instead of doing the usual post, I decided to record a video mainly because it's an extensive topic and because I want to add a bit of variety to my blog. It is mandatory that as ladies we keep ourselves up. If we don't care for ourselves, nobody else will! Enjoy! (Note: I misspelled hygiene...but you know what I mean...)

Know Your Worth

I have a tendency to address the ladies whenever I publish a post, but unfortunately (but oh so fortunately) I am a female who goes through female things, so I can't help but to write things that are on the feminine tip. I think this post will be a bit a different though, since it is something that everyone has been through at one point or another in their lives. Whether it be in friendships, intimate relationships or even relationships with parents all of us have had challenges with realizing our worth.

I can't describe how important it is to know your worth! Knowing your worth prevents you from taking a lot of BS that someone who sees themselves as average would take. Unfortunately, sometimes in love we overlook our own happiness to deal with treatment that we know we are not worthy of. We remove our crowns in order to deal with a peasant who we just know with every fiber of our being, will be good enough to wholly and completely call themselves ours one day. As bad as it sounds, you have to give up on folks sometimes, simply because they will never know your worth. They will never give you what you want. In some cases, they do know your worth, they just refuse to show you your worth because you've dealt with their stomach wrenching behavior for so long. They just figure that you're not going anywhere no matter how bad you treat them. Sometimes, we want to to be wanted so bad that we lower our standards just so that we can be okay. In reality, all we are doing in hurting ourselves and in a way deceiving them by pretending to be okay with what they are handing us, when we're really not. The crazy thing is, once we finally decide to outline our expectations, we are all of a sudden "trippin" and they take it upon themselves to drop us. When you get done moaning, and groaning and declaring that the world must be coming to an end, step back and evaluate the situation. What did you really lose? "Side chick" or "second hand" treatment? Confusion? Feelings of never being good enough? Oh. Okay. I thought so. They did you a favor, trust me on this, and the sooner you realize that, the sooner you'll come to terms with the fact that they were just a disgusting clog that was standing in the way of someone who actually is above and beyond your expectations.

What everyone needs to learn how to do and something that I am slowly but surely working on, is learning how to express needs and wants initially. Going about relationships (and life in general) in that manner will leave very little room for mess ups. It will allow you to cut people off with the knowledge that they did not live up to what you laid out in from of them in the first place. Yes, it's a bit cut throat but it is such a liberating feeling to know that you knew your worth and refused to take the scraps they were offering.

As always, if you have any additional comments or questions or if you don't agree with what I have written feel free to let me know. Enlightenment is always welcome...XOXO