As I lied on my bed face down wallowing in sorrow over yet another one of life's mishaps my mother came into the room and said: "When you learn, teach and when you get, give." At first, I didn't want to hear it because the idea of simply being pitiful sounded so much better than trying to learn a lesson out of the current situation and formulating a way to teach it to future generations in some way, shape or form. After a few minutes, I sat up and said "D*mn, she's right" and decided that I would dedicate a week to gaining wisdom and learning lessons out of life's unfortunate events. In the spirit of "learning and teaching," I'll share what I've been presented with. It's also a mix of random thoughts, so just bear with me...
The first set of lessons comes for this book that I started then stopped because I couldn't handle it. It talked about love and relationship repeaters and if you've read any of my blog you understand that.........just no. I can dish out advice like a pro and have people wanting to marry each other, but when it comes down to me??? No. Being very passionate and impatient at the same time is not a very good mix but I am getting better so all hope is not lost.
1) Most of the time we see ourselves as helpless when it comes to our behavior. We can't see that we actively seek out the very things that are bad for us. Things don't simply happen to us...we make them happen.
2) If you consider yourself a great catch, you should EXPECT a world-class knockout to be interested in you--you shouldn't be surprised.
3) Since we attract what we put out, the people you choose to be in your life are your reflection. If you don't like what you see, I suggest you do some introspection and do something different.
The second lesson comes from the movie The Secret which my mother suggested I watch after a long conversation that ended with me not being able to fully answer "What does happy look like to you?"
1) The secret to success and getting all you ever wanted in life is the law of attraction. That is all you need to know, I promise y'all. Focus your energy on being positive and calling out into the universe "I can, I will, I shall, I want" instead of "I can't, I'll never, b*tchin and moanin blah blah blah" and watch what the universe brings back to you. Every morning put positive energy into the atmosphere and watch how well your day goes. If you want that "A" put it out into the universe and gradually you'll be put in place to get that grade. If you're finally ready for your soul mate and want him or her in your life, put it into the universe and watch you all strike up the most random conversation about monkeys or something.
After a little bout on a social networking site, I had to come to terms with things I had to come to terms with those lessons I had learned but chosen to compromise
1) People will treat you how you allow them to.
2) It is your life, so you don't have to explain a thing to anybody.
3) Only you choose the quality of life that you live. You can't blame a thing on anyone else.
4) Men are hunters by nature, so if he decides to come back around a second time, (which they ALWAYS do IF you are unique) make him earn that spot again (if you still want him). "Prey" doesn't simply hop into a net. Queens can't just be going around, making their love easy to get and if he's a King he'll work happily for you because he understands that you are worth it and so much more.
5) He is not him so you can't make him responsible for the mistakes of your "hes." You have to forgive and understand that trust issues can really mess up a good thing.
Hopefully, this helped someone...but as always if you have any questions or comments feel free to do so below.XOXO
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